yeah, i don't think those comments count as "concrit" do they? more like "omgspurofthemomentilostcontrolofmybrain" comments :)

yeah, that analogy to fic exchanges still doesn't work for me. i don't buy the fandom as a giant family nor do i think of the fic as "meant for only one person" in a way that the gift is. i mean, in your scenario, if the t-shirt was given to one person and then circulated for everyone to wear? when it was my turn to wear it, i would totally say "this looks hideous ON ME for such and such reasons but the colour and the wording are so clever". that's the closest i can draw that analogy :)