A lot of times I'll actually skim/skip the sex so as to get on with the good stuff

See, that's what I've noticed myself doing more and more. Especially if it's more description of methodology than emotion. I'm really looking for that emotional hook to pull me in. If I don't think the build-up is there, I feel cheated somehow.

I like unique things in sexual description, though. But lately, it seems as if rimming is the new black. Nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't do anything for me.

I notice in my latest writing, I don't even go with penetration at all. Mutual masturbation and frottage get to come out and play.