I tripped over your post from the frog analogy (snickers at self), and wondered about the question.

Perhaps yes, fanfiction did get me over-exposed to sex, and published fiction really can't compete in the titilation area.

I'm reading Samuel Delany's Neveryon books right now, and for something that's bothered readers/critics for its explicit gay pr0nny sex, it doesn't seem at all "in the way" to me. Hey, gives me more time to think more about his nutsy critical theory writing style, instead. So maybe it helps.